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Parenting Support - Redlands Counselling Service

Parenting Support - Redlands Counselling Service

Gottman Emotional Coaching

adapted from - https://www.gottman.com/blog/strengthen-childs-emotional-intelligence/

Emotional self-regulation, a large component of emotional intelligence, is the ability to manage one’s experience and expression of emotions. With practice, children improve their capacity for emotional self-regulation. By age four, most children start to use strategies to eliminate disturbing external stimuli. In other words, they cover their eyes when they’re scared and plug their ears when they hear a loud noise.

It’s not until age 10 that children consistently use more complex strategies for emotional self-regulation. These strategies can be broken down into two simplistic categories: those that attempt to solve the problem and those that attempt to tolerate the emotion.

When a child can make a change to address a problem, they engage in problem-focused coping by identifying the trouble and making a plan for dealing with it. When they deem the problem unsolvable, they engage in emotion-focused coping by working to tolerate and control distress.

All of these strategies are a part of emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence encompasses awareness, understanding, and the ability to express and manage one’s emotions.

What type of parenting style are you?

He found that parents respond to children’s emotions one of four possible ways.

  1. Dismissing parents see children’s emotions as unimportant and attempt to eliminate them quickly, often through the use of distraction.

  2. Disapproving parents see negative emotions as something to be squashed, usually through punishment.

  3. Laissez-faire parents accept all emotions from child, but fail to help the child solve problems or put limits on appropriate behaviors.

  4. Emotion coaching parents value negative emotions, are not impatient with a child’s expression of them, and use emotional experience as an opportunity for bonding by offering guidance through labeling emotions and problem-solving the issue at hand.

If you wish you to help guide your child with their emotions, lets talk.

Triple P

Triple P is a parenting intervention with the main goals of increasing the knowledge, skills, and confidence of parents and reducing the prevalence of mental health, emotional, and behavioral problems in children. I have been trained in running groups, seminars and working one on one. I am also a parent and step-parent,so I understand how tough can be.

Triple P helps you:

  • Raise happy, confident kids

  • Manage misbehaviour so everyone in the family enjoys life more

  • Set rules and routines that everyone respects and follows

  • Encourage behaviour you like

  • Take care of yourself as a parent

  • Feel confident you’re doing the right thing

If you need help working though parenting issues lets talk at Redlands Counselling Service.

 

Redlands - Bayside  Counselling Service recommends Raising Children Network.

Raising Children Network - has great support and resources

http://raisingchildren.net.au/

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Redlands City, Brisbane Counselling

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